I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask

I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I am an 18 year old that goes to Hogan High.  I’ve recently discovered that I am a drug addict.  I use any drug that’ll give me a mellow feeling besides crack, coke or heroin.  I need help, but I’m scared to ask.  I’ve lately been sipping lean and smoking kush.  I love the high but I hate the feeling after. I know it’s not healthy, but I can’t help it.  I could use some suggestions or support to motivate me to quit.  My parents kicked me out when they found out I was an addict.  I’ve tried to reach out for help but I’ve gotten no response.

Sincerely,

I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask


Dear I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask,

I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. You should know that asking for help is not something to be scared of. It actually takes a lot of courage. The first step to fixing a problem is acknowledging it. This means that you’re already a step ahead, because you’ve done that. I think that you should try going to your parents and telling them that you want to stop and get help. See if they will help you with this and work through your issues. But you have to be fully committed to getting better for yourself first.

Sincerely,

Your Youth Ambassadors’ Friend

16 and Seen A Lot

16 and Seen A Lot

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I am an okay person. I just make mistakes from time to time. I believe that I can do great things, but I’m just so lazy. I always think if I had a better support system I would be better. My dad kept me separated from him because of my step moms, leaving my mama with two kids at a young age. My pops left when I was one, and my sister was two. Once my pops left, I remember multiple times being the dirty kid in school with no clothes to wear or place to sleep sometimes at night, even being at a house with no heat or electricity.  I’ve been through real struggles seeing family members treat you wrong, to even having to see my mama cry at night about money.  I’m only 16, and I’ve seen a lot, and I have a lot of anger built up inside of me. I never know how to handle it.  What would you do if you were in my life’s situation?

Sincerely,

16 and Seen A Lot


Dear 16 and Seen A Lot,

I was once in your life struggle but at a younger age. My mom was on drugs, there was barely food in the house, and I barely went to school. How did I handle my anger? I’m not gonna lie – it took me four years to know how to handle it. I started getting involved with school WAY more, I had counseling, I opened up to my family more on why I was so angry, I joined a sport and other activities as well, and I got in a wonderful program called Youth Ambassadors. Maybe you have to do some of these things just so you can help your anger. But do what makes you feel comfortable, so you can be a better you.

Tell me how your journey goes!

Sincerely,

Your Youth Ambassadors Friend

Pregnant By Her Brother-in-Law

Pregnant By Her Brother-in-Law

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

A friend is currently pregnant by her brother-in-law, and can’t tell her mom. She is in 11th grade, heading to 12th in the fall.  Besides being pregnant, she wants to get a gender swap.  She really believes that she was made to be a boy and not a girl. She wants to get rid of the baby, but her mom wants to keep the child. The two of them had a falling out, and my friend is now living with another family member. About three days ago she asked if I would go with her to get an abortion. She wasn’t going to tell her mom and was going to go during school. I don’t know what to do. I want her to have the baby, but I don’t want her to be upset with me also. I also want to go with her, so she is not alone at that place. Please tell me what to do!

Sincerely,

Pregnant By Her Brother-in-Law


Dear Pregnant By Her Brother-in-Law,

You’re really a good friend for staying with her. Congratulations to her for her pregnancy and trying to find herself. Keep being by her side. I think you should talk to your friend about this situation. Be honest but nice. Also listen to her and tell her she should really talk to her mother, because she’s gonna need support and love in these two life changing events.

“The quality of strength lined with tenderness is an unbeatable combination.”- Maya Angelou

Write back, good luck!

Sincerely,

A Friend and Fellow Ambassador

He Says He’s Not Guilty & That’s Not True

He Says He’s Not Guilty & That’s Not True

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I have a sexual abuse problem. When my cousin was 24, my sisters and I were 11, 11, and 16. He started to touch us. It all started in 2013 and it ended in 2015. My stepmom found out first. She didn’t want me to tell my brothers. It was scary being there when she came back. I didn’t even want to look at her because she had found out. My cousins didn’t come back the day my stepmom found out. We didn’t tell my daddy because he worked with him. We hid it from him for 3 days. Then on Sunday after Church he found out. He wanted to run out of the room, scream, and yell. But we wouldn’t let him. All he did was cry. It’s one doctor appointment, court date, talk, and thing after another. There’s another court date coming up in 2 months. My cousin says he’s not guilty and that it’s not true. What should I do?

Sincerely,

He Says He’s Not Guilty & That’s Not True


Dear He Says He’s Not Guilty & That’s Not True,

I am sorry that you had to go through all these horrible things. I think you should tell the truth. Everything will be better when there are people that help you. Telling the truth will also help solve this big problem. No one should do those horrible things that have happened to you. It may feel badly that someone in your family has been doing all these things to you, but he has to be punished for those things. Just remember that when anything bad happens to you or anyone you know, ask someone for help. Let the authorities know, because everything will be so much better when you know you are safe.

Sincerely,

Your Classmate


Dear He Says He’s Not Guilty & That’s Not True,

I’ve been in a situation like yours. I imagine it’s discouraging and self-deprecating. Your cousin is a disgusting person, and I hope you get the justice you deserve. Your cousin says he is not guilty, so if you want people to know the truth I would say talk about it. I know it may be uncomfortable, but I would tell you and your sisters to tell everyone what happened. If you keep it inside there may not be any evidence against your cousin. I hope you never have to see your cousin again, and that you and your family will heal from this occurrence. I assume that being in these situations can sometimes be scary or embarrassing, but I’m glad your family members finally found out, and you were able to get help. Don’t keep what happened to you inside. Let it be known.

Sincerely,

The Boss

Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry?

Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry?

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

Yesterday I basically lost my father.  He’s not dead, but he went to prison for 10 years.  It’s basically the same as being dead.  I spent all day crying and didn’t eat anything.  I really don’t know what to do.  He’s been in jail before but never for this long.  I never thought he’d serve 10 years!  It’s really killing me, because he is going to miss most of my life.  He won’t get the opportunity to see me walk the stage at graduation.  When I think about it, I don’t know if I should be pissed off or cry.  I know I have to stay strong, but how can I keep my sanity?

Sincerely,

Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry?


Dear Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry,

In some way I guess I can relate to you.  My eldest brother is in jail, and his time continuously gets pushed for a longer time.  My own father isn’t in jail, but he is barely around.  I talk to him, but I don’t see him a lot.  The best advice I will give you is this:  Keep living your life.  You can’t put your life on hold for your father’s mistakes.  Don’t forget about your dad, but he wouldn’t want you crying and hurting the way you are.  He would want you living your life happily.

Sincerely,

Your Neighbor, Classmate and Friend


Dear Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry,

Aw, I know how you feel. A lot of people in my family are dying. If you have a favorite person in your family you should talk to them. If you are in a relationship, find closure from them.

Sincerely,

The Dude in the Cool Blue Shoes


Dear Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry,

I think you should send him letters and send him pictures of you and send him a picture of you from your graduation.  That’s what I would do.  I have a 12-year-old cousin who really didn’t see her father when she was little, because he was in jail all the time, and she cried, cried, and cried.  But my sister and I were there for her.  We kept her writing letters to him, and he wrote letters.  They sent pictures back and forth.  I wouldn’t be pissed off.  Yes, I would cry but just send letters to him and send pictures, and he will do the same back to you.

Sincerely,

Your Youth Ambassadors Friend


Dear Should I Be Pissed Off or Cry,

To keep my sanity I always use one method that works for everything. FIND COMFORT. You must find comfort in everything you do. I’M EXTREMELY claustrophobic. But the way I get over it is to slow down, breathe slowly, relax my muscles, and find comfort. In your situation, slow down, take a deep breath, remember everything will be okay, and find comfort. Meaning keep your life moving. Adjust.

Sincerely,

Your Friend

Worried About Home

Worried About Home

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

One thing that I hate is dealing with my pops when he comes home drunk.  He yells at me and my brothers and tries to start arguments with them.  They have a big commotion.  Sometimes my mom tells me that she wants a divorce.  The only reason she hasn’t divorced him yet is because my brothers and I asked where we would live if she got one.  My mom doesn’t have any family in Kansas City, Missouri so we would have to move to Saint Louis.  I don’t want them to split up because I love both of them so much.  How do I handle this?

Sincerely,

Worried About Home


Dear Worried About Home,

I think you should express to both of your parents how you feel. Tell your dad how he makes you feel when he drinks. Tell your mom that you don’t want to move.  Maybe you should volunteer your parents to talk to someone. Maybe you should talk to someone.  Whatever you do, make sure you are in a safe environment when you do it.

Much Love,

Your Youth Ambassador Friend

Can’t Cope

Can’t Cope

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

You don’t know me, but here’s your chance to at least try and get to know me.  A problem I have been struggling with is finding closure.  My mom was killed in 2001, and my dad killed himself in 1999 on his birthday.  How should I cope with this situation, and what are some things I should/can do to not be so angry at times?

Sincerely,

Can’t Cope


Dear Can’t Cope,

This letter/vignette is hard to answer.  I am not going to lie to you – just the truth. Empathy and sympathy is what I feel for you right now.  My mom is on drugs, and I don’t see her at all.  Some days I cry and just wanna sleep all day long.  But I have never felt the agony that you go through.  What I think you should do to cope is think about the good things that you guys had.  Also talk to her.  Even though she’s not here physically, she is still here spiritually.  Lastly, work hard getting money.  Let your mom be your motivation.  And for your dad, the same thing goes.  But you have to live your life and enjoy. Stop being angry, because your mom is not gonna like it.  Find closure.  Be happy.  Get knowledge.

Sincerely,

Your Sympathetic Friend


Dear Can’t Cope,

I think the best thing to do is pray. I have found that when you pray about things to God it makes you feel much better. I’m not saying the pain will go away. It will take some time, but you have to believe that God will fix your broken heart. Also, try and go visit their graves every once in a while and talk to them. It might be weird to talk to somebody that is dead, but it can be a place where you let everything out.

Sincerely,

Your Youth Ambassador Friend