Trust Issues

Trust Issues

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I’m having problems trusting people.  Like, when they tell you things they don’t really mean.  I’m always being lied to.  I don’t ask anyone anything and I stay to myself.  I don’t let anyone know if I need to talk to anyone.  If I am upset, I put my phone down and go to sleep. I don’t understand how I can trust anyone.  Can you help me?

Sincerely,

Trust Issues


Dear Trust Issues,

I know exactly how you feel.  In the past I’ve trusted the wrong people and got my heart broken, because they didn’t turn out to be the person I thought.  And now, when anyone new comes into my life, I hesitate to let them in, because I am too scared to trust people.  The people in this world are so unpredictable.  You never know when someone is going to wake up one day and decide to leave you.  My advice to you would be to take your time to get to know somebody.  If they seem worthy of your trust, then trust them.  If there are signs that this person is temporary, then don’t get your hopes up.  I’d say put your trust in God.  He’s the only one who won’t let you down.

Sincerely,

Your Empathetic Friend


Dear Trust Issues,

I feel the same way.  Sometimes I feel like I don’t have anybody. But, sometimes you have to pray on it and hope everything will be ok.  When you feel like you have somebody to talk to you don’t know if you can trust them or not but you have to have faith in people.  Just go with the flow in life and get on with your life.   Keep your head up.

Sincerely,

An Understanding Friend

Hiding Emotions

Hiding Emotions

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I am a very emotional person. Some people may see that. Some people don’t. Nobody really knows who I really am. I have been through a lot in my life, and sometimes I can’t handle it. My emotions can sometimes really get deep inside of me, and I don’t know what to do with them. I usually cry or cry myself to sleep. To be honest, nobody really knows how I feel deep inside, and I usually don’t like to tell anyone, or I’ll start crying. At school I got bullied a lot. I mean a lot. Sometimes I would pray so much for my dad to come back, but who am I kidding. It’s not possible. He’s dead. Sometimes I wish I could be with him. But in the meantime I learn to stay strong for him.

Sincerely,
Hiding Emotions


Dear Hiding Emotions,
I am also a very emotional person. I don’t tell nobody even though I should. But you should not hide your emotions inside. If you hide too much you will take your emotions out on somebody you love deeply. You can sometimes cry yourself to sleep or you can tell somebody that you trust. If you do tell somebody, they can maybe walk you through your sad times.

Sincerely,
A Friend

Dear Hiding Emotion,
I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. I’m going to tell you the most honest truth. I deeply know how you feel. I’m not going to say it’s going to get better fast, because the truth of the matter is it won’t. It will get better in due time, trust me. I’m sorry for your loss but remember everything he taught you, and know he is still with you, everywhere you go. My advice for the bullying is stand up for yourself. If you have to explode, do it, because if you bottle it up you’ll become sick. I know you were expecting advice other people give saying just ignore it, but it’s hard, and it drives you crazy. I hope it gives you some peace, and everything gets better in your life.

Sincerely,
Someone Who Believes in You

She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes

She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

My big sister is twenty-five years old and has been in and out of jail and juvenile hall since she was in her early teens.  I never got to experience that big sister feeling from her.  She got out of high school and got on drugs.  She then started running away and would be gone for days.  She then came home like nothing happened.  Before all this trouble started we found out my sister had been getting molested by my grandma’s husband.  I always asked myself, “How could she let this happen to her own grandchild?” I would cry all the time seeing my sister down and out and not being able to do anything about it.  My sister was also diagnosed with bipolar and schizophrenia.  I just couldn’t deal with seeing my sister fall apart right before my eyes.  For a long time I hated my grandma.  I felt like she was the reason for everything with my sister.  Still to this day my sister is in and out of jail, and we are trying our best to keep her off drugs.  I hope for a better future for my sister and pray she will change her life.

Sincerely,

She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes


Dear She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes,

My mother started doing drugs when I was ten years old and has been in and out of my life since. One day I got so sick of her coming in and out my life that I just stopped dealing with her. I miss her like crazy all the time. But you can’t keep helping someone who doesn’t want to be helped, no matter how badly you may wanna help. They have to want the help as badly as you. Sit your sister down and express to her how you feel about this situation. Also with the grandma situation, you should also talk to your grandma and ask her what happened.

“Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you’ve ever imagined.” Write back!

Sincerely,

A Friend Who Cares

In Kansas City

In Kansas City

Dear YA,

I like this girl I’ve been talking to for awhile. I really like her, but I don’t really know if she likes me back. The other problem is that she lives in New Jersey, and I live in Kansas City. I really don’t care about a long distance relationship, but I want to see her. I met her on Instagram once, and we’ve been talking for about two months. I asked her can we be together. I think she knew that I was asking her out.  She didn’t reject me. She said that she wanted us to meet in person or over video chatting. I really want to be with her.  I can’t stop thinking about her. She’s really pretty and smart.  She’s the girl that you want to talk to everyday. She keeps you laughing, and she is always there when you need her. I don’t know what to do in this situation. I don’t want to mess up with her. It took a long time for me to find a girl like her, and she’s everything I want in a girl. I know she’s probably talking to other dudes and not just me. How can I get her to stay talking to me?

Sincerely,

In Kansas City


Dear In Kansas City,

Meeting someone and falling in love ONLINE is bad. You don’t know if this person is a child predator, if you’re being cat fished or what. You let pictures of a person steal your heart. Leave that girl alone and forget about her. It’s not worth it. I find it hard to believe this little girl is only talking to you and y’all’s relationship is online. Stop dude.   

Sincerely,

Your Friend From Youth Ambassadors

 

They’re Going Down That Dead in 3 Years Path

They’re Going Down That Dead in 3 Years Path

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I have friends who fight a lot, but I’ve known them since elementary school started.  I keep them as my friends even though they’re going down that dead-in-3-years path. I’m trying to make it out, and all they’re worried about is who’s mugging them. How should I handle my friendships?

Sincerely,

They’re Going Down That Dead-in-3-Years Path


Dear They’re Going Down That Dead-in-3-Years Path,

All you can do at this point is tell them the right way and let them choose. Don’t force it onto them. Especially teenagers. They are going to do what they want. You must offer them a new way of doing things. It’s up to them whether they choose to take the right path or not. It seems as if your friends’ relationships are eating at you. So you hanging with them is risking your life as well. You might get sucked in. Don’t let it get you down. Let your smile change the world. Never let the world change your smile. Your friends are going to do what they want. Also, most people that fight want to see a crowd. They love the crowds and attention. But if they want to survive and make it to college, they must change their ways and motives. A wise woman once told me, “In order to lead an orchestra, you must turn your back to the crowd.” What it means – that’s for you to know and them to find out.

Love,

Your Friend


Dear They’re Going Down That Dead-in-3-Years Path,

If those are your friends and you really care about them, you should maybe try to get their heads on straight and focus on something else in life other than fighting. I used to be a fighter back in middle school, but once you grow up and really mature you’ll see it’s really not worth it. There’s way more to life than that. It’s really stupid and childish, especially if it is based on how someone looks at you. Just try to get them on the same maturity level as you. If it doesn’t work, you may have to leave them behind.

Sincerely,

A Fellow Youth Ambassador


Dear They’re Going Down That Dead-in-3-Years Path,

I feel that you should tell them how you feel. Tell your friends that you are trying to make it out of the bad and into the good. Tell them about how you feel about them fighting, and if they don’t understand what you’re saying or appreciate what you’re trying to do then they’re not your real friends. Just leave them alone.

Sincerely,

Your Classmate and Friend

I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask

I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I am an 18 year old that goes to Hogan High.  I’ve recently discovered that I am a drug addict.  I use any drug that’ll give me a mellow feeling besides crack, coke or heroin.  I need help, but I’m scared to ask.  I’ve lately been sipping lean and smoking kush.  I love the high but I hate the feeling after. I know it’s not healthy, but I can’t help it.  I could use some suggestions or support to motivate me to quit.  My parents kicked me out when they found out I was an addict.  I’ve tried to reach out for help but I’ve gotten no response.

Sincerely,

I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask


Dear I Need Help, but I’m Scared to Ask,

I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. You should know that asking for help is not something to be scared of. It actually takes a lot of courage. The first step to fixing a problem is acknowledging it. This means that you’re already a step ahead, because you’ve done that. I think that you should try going to your parents and telling them that you want to stop and get help. See if they will help you with this and work through your issues. But you have to be fully committed to getting better for yourself first.

Sincerely,

Your Youth Ambassadors’ Friend

16 and Seen A Lot

16 and Seen A Lot

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I am an okay person. I just make mistakes from time to time. I believe that I can do great things, but I’m just so lazy. I always think if I had a better support system I would be better. My dad kept me separated from him because of my step moms, leaving my mama with two kids at a young age. My pops left when I was one, and my sister was two. Once my pops left, I remember multiple times being the dirty kid in school with no clothes to wear or place to sleep sometimes at night, even being at a house with no heat or electricity.  I’ve been through real struggles seeing family members treat you wrong, to even having to see my mama cry at night about money.  I’m only 16, and I’ve seen a lot, and I have a lot of anger built up inside of me. I never know how to handle it.  What would you do if you were in my life’s situation?

Sincerely,

16 and Seen A Lot


Dear 16 and Seen A Lot,

I was once in your life struggle but at a younger age. My mom was on drugs, there was barely food in the house, and I barely went to school. How did I handle my anger? I’m not gonna lie – it took me four years to know how to handle it. I started getting involved with school WAY more, I had counseling, I opened up to my family more on why I was so angry, I joined a sport and other activities as well, and I got in a wonderful program called Youth Ambassadors. Maybe you have to do some of these things just so you can help your anger. But do what makes you feel comfortable, so you can be a better you.

Tell me how your journey goes!

Sincerely,

Your Youth Ambassadors Friend