Bullying Sucks

Bullying Sucks

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I heard some people plotting something against someone. I don’t like that person, but what the people are plotting to do is very mean, and something I wouldn’t do. This person is mean to me and those I hang out with, but the people are taking it to a different level. Should I stop them or tell the person?

Sincerely,
Bullying Sucks


Dear Bullying Sucks,
You should always do the right thing. If somebody plots something against someone, and you know they don’t deserve it, then help them or give them a heads-up. Don’t put that person in harm’s way.
Sincerely,
A Friend


Dear Bullying Sucks,
Absolutely yes, you should stop them and let them know that getting revenge is not a great idea. Tell them to talk to someone, so there won’t be a huge conflict. Also, sometimes you just need to learn how to ignore people. It’s going to be hard, but if you know what’s true about you, you shouldn’t care.
Sincerely,
I’ve Been Bullied

Don’t Know How to Help

Don’t Know How to Help

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
My best friend is doing drugs, smoking and drinking. My friend is trying to get me to use drugs, and I refuse. I try to get my friend to stop, but my friend won’t listen and is starting to act violent. I need help. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Don’t Know How to Help


Dear Don’t Know How to Help,
Honestly, a real friend wouldn’t do things like pressuring you into doing drugs. You probably feel like you know them, and they can improve, and that might be true…but it can start with you. If you continue to be friends with someone who is pressuring you to do things, you might actually get fed up and do it. I think you should be completely honest with them and tell them that you cannot see them go down the path they are going, because you care, and then just step back. Don’t judge them nor ditch them but step back, save yourself first…and pray.
Sincerely,
Fellow Youth Ambassador


Dear Don’t Know How to Help
Peer pressure is something else, isn’t it? Well, I would say keep saying “no” to your friend. If he or she is your true friend, he will begin the process of quitting, because he sees you not starting. Don’t stress him out about drugs. Soon he’ll realize that he’s damaging himself and wants to quit. Keep being a good role model and friend and continue to say no to his bad habits.
Sincerely,
A Friend Who Cares


Dear Don’t Know How to Help,
First I would like to give you a thumbs up for refusing to participate in bad choices and substance abuse. This is a tough thing to consider, because this is your best friend. I feel that if he was really your ‘best friend” he wouldn’t pressure you to do things that would hurt you.Your friend needs HELP. Try helping him without getting him in trouble with his parents. Your friend is starting to act violent you say. Is he acting violent towards you? You shouldn’t put up with this, because you sound like a good person. I think you should remain being friends, because that’s what he really needs right now – a friend. He probably feels alone, and that’s why he is using substances. Just ask an older but advice-giving person for medical and therapy help, like a counselor or favorite teacher. Stay strong and firm in your decision to not participate in these activities. If your best friend is doing these things and doesn’t respect your say in the situation then you’ll have to step back and let him face the consequences of his actions. Even though it’ll be hard to do, you have to face that it’s his body, and he’ll do whatever he wants.
Sincerely,
Your Friend

Missing My Cousin

Missing My Cousin

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I recently had a cousin who passed away. We were very close. She was like a sister to me. She has been gone for 4 months, and it still doesn’t feel real. Her birthday is coming up. My family is going to visit her grave-site, but I’m not sure if I want to go. I don’t think I would be able to handle it, but at the end of the day, she still is my family, and you’re supposed to be there regardless. So I just need help making the decision to go or not to go.

Sincerely,
Missing My Cousin


Dear Missing My Cousin,
I also had a cousin who passed away. It’s been a year since she died. I feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. If you are afraid of breaking down, don’t be. It’s okay to cry. Most of all, it’s important to be there for her birthday. She’s in a better place, and she probably just wants you to be happy. Go to her grave and be with her. Wish her peace and happiness in heaven.

Sincerely,
A Friend


Dear Missing My Cousin,
I also lost a cousin about a year ago. We lived right next door to each other. She was older than me, so I would go to her for advice. Even though it can be hard to find closure, I think that you should visit her grave. I have a feeling that it would make her feel happy. I’m sure she would have done the same for you.

Sincerely,
Youth Ambassadors


Dear Missing My Cousin,
I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I’ve lost family members that I barely knew, but I know that if I lost someone that I am close with I would at least want closure. It’s completely up to you if you want to go, but I think it would do you some good. I’m sure your cousin would want you to be happy and to live your life. So take as much time as you need to grieve. Being happy doesn’t mean you need to forget about her. Just take it one day at a time.

Sincerely,
You’ve Got A Friend

Trust Issues

Trust Issues

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I’m having problems trusting people.  Like, when they tell you things they don’t really mean.  I’m always being lied to.  I don’t ask anyone anything and I stay to myself.  I don’t let anyone know if I need to talk to anyone.  If I am upset, I put my phone down and go to sleep. I don’t understand how I can trust anyone.  Can you help me?

Sincerely,

Trust Issues


Dear Trust Issues,

I know exactly how you feel.  In the past I’ve trusted the wrong people and got my heart broken, because they didn’t turn out to be the person I thought.  And now, when anyone new comes into my life, I hesitate to let them in, because I am too scared to trust people.  The people in this world are so unpredictable.  You never know when someone is going to wake up one day and decide to leave you.  My advice to you would be to take your time to get to know somebody.  If they seem worthy of your trust, then trust them.  If there are signs that this person is temporary, then don’t get your hopes up.  I’d say put your trust in God.  He’s the only one who won’t let you down.

Sincerely,

Your Empathetic Friend


Dear Trust Issues,

I feel the same way.  Sometimes I feel like I don’t have anybody. But, sometimes you have to pray on it and hope everything will be ok.  When you feel like you have somebody to talk to you don’t know if you can trust them or not but you have to have faith in people.  Just go with the flow in life and get on with your life.   Keep your head up.

Sincerely,

An Understanding Friend

Hiding Emotions

Hiding Emotions

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I am a very emotional person. Some people may see that. Some people don’t. Nobody really knows who I really am. I have been through a lot in my life, and sometimes I can’t handle it. My emotions can sometimes really get deep inside of me, and I don’t know what to do with them. I usually cry or cry myself to sleep. To be honest, nobody really knows how I feel deep inside, and I usually don’t like to tell anyone, or I’ll start crying. At school I got bullied a lot. I mean a lot. Sometimes I would pray so much for my dad to come back, but who am I kidding. It’s not possible. He’s dead. Sometimes I wish I could be with him. But in the meantime I learn to stay strong for him.

Sincerely,
Hiding Emotions


Dear Hiding Emotions,
I am also a very emotional person. I don’t tell nobody even though I should. But you should not hide your emotions inside. If you hide too much you will take your emotions out on somebody you love deeply. You can sometimes cry yourself to sleep or you can tell somebody that you trust. If you do tell somebody, they can maybe walk you through your sad times.

Sincerely,
A Friend

Dear Hiding Emotion,
I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. I’m going to tell you the most honest truth. I deeply know how you feel. I’m not going to say it’s going to get better fast, because the truth of the matter is it won’t. It will get better in due time, trust me. I’m sorry for your loss but remember everything he taught you, and know he is still with you, everywhere you go. My advice for the bullying is stand up for yourself. If you have to explode, do it, because if you bottle it up you’ll become sick. I know you were expecting advice other people give saying just ignore it, but it’s hard, and it drives you crazy. I hope it gives you some peace, and everything gets better in your life.

Sincerely,
Someone Who Believes in You

She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes

She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

My big sister is twenty-five years old and has been in and out of jail and juvenile hall since she was in her early teens.  I never got to experience that big sister feeling from her.  She got out of high school and got on drugs.  She then started running away and would be gone for days.  She then came home like nothing happened.  Before all this trouble started we found out my sister had been getting molested by my grandma’s husband.  I always asked myself, “How could she let this happen to her own grandchild?” I would cry all the time seeing my sister down and out and not being able to do anything about it.  My sister was also diagnosed with bipolar and schizophrenia.  I just couldn’t deal with seeing my sister fall apart right before my eyes.  For a long time I hated my grandma.  I felt like she was the reason for everything with my sister.  Still to this day my sister is in and out of jail, and we are trying our best to keep her off drugs.  I hope for a better future for my sister and pray she will change her life.

Sincerely,

She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes


Dear She’s Falling Apart Right Before My Eyes,

My mother started doing drugs when I was ten years old and has been in and out of my life since. One day I got so sick of her coming in and out my life that I just stopped dealing with her. I miss her like crazy all the time. But you can’t keep helping someone who doesn’t want to be helped, no matter how badly you may wanna help. They have to want the help as badly as you. Sit your sister down and express to her how you feel about this situation. Also with the grandma situation, you should also talk to your grandma and ask her what happened.

“Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you’ve ever imagined.” Write back!

Sincerely,

A Friend Who Cares

In Kansas City

In Kansas City

Dear YA,

I like this girl I’ve been talking to for awhile. I really like her, but I don’t really know if she likes me back. The other problem is that she lives in New Jersey, and I live in Kansas City. I really don’t care about a long distance relationship, but I want to see her. I met her on Instagram once, and we’ve been talking for about two months. I asked her can we be together. I think she knew that I was asking her out.  She didn’t reject me. She said that she wanted us to meet in person or over video chatting. I really want to be with her.  I can’t stop thinking about her. She’s really pretty and smart.  She’s the girl that you want to talk to everyday. She keeps you laughing, and she is always there when you need her. I don’t know what to do in this situation. I don’t want to mess up with her. It took a long time for me to find a girl like her, and she’s everything I want in a girl. I know she’s probably talking to other dudes and not just me. How can I get her to stay talking to me?

Sincerely,

In Kansas City


Dear In Kansas City,

Meeting someone and falling in love ONLINE is bad. You don’t know if this person is a child predator, if you’re being cat fished or what. You let pictures of a person steal your heart. Leave that girl alone and forget about her. It’s not worth it. I find it hard to believe this little girl is only talking to you and y’all’s relationship is online. Stop dude.   

Sincerely,

Your Friend From Youth Ambassadors