Sugar Tooth

Sugar Tooth

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I have a sweet tooth. Extremely sweet tooth. Sugars are not my friend. I’m getting bigger and bigger. I try to control my sweets, but can’t seem to handle it. I mean I do try and eat healthy foods, but working at a fast food place doesn’t help that much. It’s summer, and I’m not happy with my body. I look fine. You can’t tell I’m fat, but put me in a skin tight dress and these love handles are bad. I just wish I knew how to avoid sweets. I want to be happy with my body again.

Sincerely,
Sugar Tooth


Dear Sugar Tooth,
I wanna start off by saying you are very, very beautiful and never let anyone tell you different. You don’t have to be like everyone else. I’m a real skinny girl, and I don’t really like it, because I can barely fit in some outfits. People make fun of me, but I don’t let them get me down. I know sometimes words hurt, but you shouldn’t care about them calling you fat, because you’re not. You’re healthy. It’s also great that you’re trying to eat healthy! Keep up the great work. I’m supporting you Sugar Tooth! You can do this!!
Sincerely,
A Youth Ambassador


Dear Sugar Tooth,
If you think it’s hard to keep up with your weight, then just keep your self-confidence up and don’t worry about other people’s decisions, because everyone is beautiful in their own way. Nobody else’s thoughts should make you feel down about yourself. If you think working at a fast food place won’t help then find another job. That’s just my advice. You do not have to take it if you don’t want to.
Best,
Your Friend

Helping Sister

FullSizeRender (2)Dear Youth Ambassadors,
My big sister is twenty-five years old and has been in and out of jail and juvenile hall since she was in her early teens. I never got to experience that big sister feeling from her. She got out of high school and got on drugs. She then started running away and would be gone for days. She then came home like nothing happened. Before all this trouble started we found out my sister had been getting molested by my grandma’s husband. I always asked myself how she could let this happen to her own grandchild. I would cry all the time seeing my sister down and out and not being able to do anything about it. My sister was also diagnosed with bipolar and schizophrenia. I just couldn’t deal with seeing my sister fall apart right before my eyes. For a long time I hated my grandma. I felt like she was the reason for everything with my sister. Still to this day my sister is in and out of jail, and we are trying our best to keep her off drugs. I hope for a better future for my sister and pray she will change her life.

Sincerely,
Helping Sister


Dear Helping Sister,
My Mother started doing drugs when I was ten years old and has been in and out of my life since. One day I got so sick of her coming in and out my life that I just stopped dealing with her. I miss her like crazy all the time. But you can’t keep helping someone who doesn’t want to be helped, no matter how badly you may wanna help. They have to want the help as badly as you. Sit your sister down and express to her how you feel about this situation. Also with the grandma situation, you should also talk to your grandma and ask her what happened.
“Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you’ve ever imagined.” Write back!

Sincerely,
A Friend

Stepdad Situation

IMG_4492 (2)Dear YA,

My Stepdad is a real asshole. He is always yelling at my mom and I. My mom can’t have a conversation with him without it turning into an argument. He doesn’t let my mom make any decisions for herself. He never hits her, but he is very verbally abusive. How could my mom and I change the way he is?

Sincerely, Stepdad Situation


Dear Stepdad Situation,

First off, your mom is not in a healthy relationship, you should speak to her about this. It takes two to be in a committed relationship. Your stepdad just wants everything to go his way, and all he thinks about is himself. Your mom doesn’t need to be with him since he is verbally abusive. She should step up, but that night turn into something worst. She needs a break from your stepdad before she gets fed up and does something crazy.

From, A Youth That Understands

Leave Me Alone

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My aunt thinks I want attention. I really don’t. She only thinks that, because I like being by myself, and she has seen the scars on my arm. When people ask me, “How did you get those on your arms?” or “Why did you do this to yourself?” I don’t ever have a response. When people ask those types of things I think of my “old self” and how great I was to me, but bad from another person’s perspective in life. The summer of 2012 was when I started smoking. In the summer of 2013 I started drinking. And the summer and school year of 2015 is when I started cutting more and more. I hate when people pay attention to me.

Sincerely,
Leave Me Alone


Dear Leave Me Alone,
Yes, it’s bad you cut yourself. My sister cuts herself too. Sometimes she sits there and cries, and sometimes I grab the knife from her. You’re not doing it for attention. You’re doing it because something is hurting you, and you can’t tell anybody. I am here. You can talk to me. You shouldn’t cut yourself. You might cut too far and really hurt yourself. Cutting doesn’t make you feel better. You’re making your body ugly, and it’s so beautiful the way it is.

Sincerely,
I’m Here For You

Tired of Peer Pressure

Tired of Peer Pressure

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
What do you do when someone puts pressure on you about losing your virginity? I see this happening to a lot of girls my age, so I was wondering how to deal with something like this. Some girls want to, but they are too scared to or aren’t ready. Their friends push them to do it, tell them, “It doesn’t hurt, “You can’t get pregnant,” and “You can’t get any type of disease from it.” Why are they putting all these lies in her head? In my opinion they should let her choose when she wants to have sex or not, because it’s her body, and they can’t control her.

Signed,
Tired of Peer Pressure


Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,
It is extremely important that you don’t give into peer pressure. These girls who are telling others about these lies most likely weren’t informed about the facts on the situation. And the truth is, losing your virginity at such a young age does come with some serious consequences. There is a very high chance that they will get pregnant or catch an STD, especially since they don’t seem to know the importance of protection. I think that adults such as teachers and parents should take time to inform teens and young adults about safe sex.
Sincerely,
A Fellow Youth Ambassador


Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,
I honestly think they want her to be “a part” of them. Sort of like “monkey see, monkey do.” The difference is this “monkey’s” getting pressured. This girl shouldn’t have to if she doesn’t want to. However, she should know that whatever she does is her doing. To prevent from peer pressure getting to your head, you need to think of the consequences. She could very well get pregnant. She could also contract a STD. This is something SHE and HER MIND decide to do, not others. Especially something like this. Be safe kids.
Sincerely,
Just Keeping It Real


Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,
I totally agree, it should be her choice if she wants to lose her virginity or not. If you are having second thoughts on a situation that means something isn’t right. Losing your virginity is a big deal, because you should cherish your body. That’s why you can’t just lose it to anybody. Whenever you want to lose it you would know, because you won’t feel pressured, or feel like you have to do this in order for someone to stay with you. And you will be the odd one out of your friends which is a good thing, because you are awesome.
Sincerely,
Your Friend

Seeking Help

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I’m dealing with a situation in my life where I’m just now getting over being sexually abused. This happened to me when I was 10 years old. I thought I would never get over it, but now I go to therapy, and it is really helping me. I’ve been going to my therapist for about three months. I must say, I really needed it after all these years. Even though it helps, I’m still not over it, and I think about it everyday. What more is there to do? Where do I seek more help? Can you please give me advice on what to do?

Sincerely,
Seeking Help


Dear Seeking Help,
I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of you for going to therapy. To answer your question – I’m going to be as honest as I possibly can, because I’m still a teenager myself. What more is there to do? Well I would say keep living your life to the fullest. Make mistakes, learn from them, fill your brain with knowledge and most importantly forgive. Forgive the person who hurt you, not for them but for you. So you can be able to move on and love life.
Hope this helps, good luck!

Sincerely,
Your Classmate

I Have Half Brothers

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So before my dad met my mom he had another family. I’m not sure what happened, but what I know is that he left them. Recently my dad has been trying to get in touch with his sons. I honestly could care less, but my dad keeps pestering me, telling me I have half-brothers, and I should get to know them. I don’t know why it bothers me so much, but I don’t want to get to know them. I don’t want anything to do with them. It really annoys me, and I just want to tell him to shut up about it. But how do I tell him that without sounding like a jealous, whiny brat?

P.S. Now he’s acting all cheery, because he’s a grandfather now and talks about how great his sons are.

Sincerely,
I Have Half Brothers


Dear I Have Half Brothers,
I understand why you are upset about your dad having other children. However, I don’t think you should hold that against him. This happened way before you. It sounds to me like your dad is doing the right thing and taking care of his responsibilities. Just think, you would want him to do the same for you. It’s okay if you don’t want to meet your brothers, but maybe you should give them a try. They could become very important people in your life.

Sincerely,
A Friend Who Believes in You


Dear I Have Half Brothers,
Your father made a mistake, and he’s just trying to fix it. Although you don’t want to have anything to do with your half brothers you should at least give them a chance. It’s not their fault. Also, think about if the shoe was on the other foot, your dad left you and your mom to go live with another woman. You wouldn’t want to have anything to do with him at first, but you eventually would want to have your father in your life. You may even have a lot of stuff in common with your half brothers. Hope this helps.

Sincerely,
A Youth Ambassador