Bullying Sucks

Bullying Sucks

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I heard some people plotting something against someone. I don’t like that person, but what the people are plotting to do is very mean, and something I wouldn’t do. This person is mean to me and those I hang out with, but the people are taking it to a different level. Should I stop them or tell the person?

Sincerely,
Bullying Sucks


Dear Bullying Sucks,
You should always do the right thing. If somebody plots something against someone, and you know they don’t deserve it, then help them or give them a heads-up. Don’t put that person in harm’s way.
Sincerely,
A Friend


Dear Bullying Sucks,
Absolutely yes, you should stop them and let them know that getting revenge is not a great idea. Tell them to talk to someone, so there won’t be a huge conflict. Also, sometimes you just need to learn how to ignore people. It’s going to be hard, but if you know what’s true about you, you shouldn’t care.
Sincerely,
I’ve Been Bullied

Don’t Know How to Help

Don’t Know How to Help

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
My best friend is doing drugs, smoking and drinking. My friend is trying to get me to use drugs, and I refuse. I try to get my friend to stop, but my friend won’t listen and is starting to act violent. I need help. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Don’t Know How to Help


Dear Don’t Know How to Help,
Honestly, a real friend wouldn’t do things like pressuring you into doing drugs. You probably feel like you know them, and they can improve, and that might be true…but it can start with you. If you continue to be friends with someone who is pressuring you to do things, you might actually get fed up and do it. I think you should be completely honest with them and tell them that you cannot see them go down the path they are going, because you care, and then just step back. Don’t judge them nor ditch them but step back, save yourself first…and pray.
Sincerely,
Fellow Youth Ambassador


Dear Don’t Know How to Help
Peer pressure is something else, isn’t it? Well, I would say keep saying “no” to your friend. If he or she is your true friend, he will begin the process of quitting, because he sees you not starting. Don’t stress him out about drugs. Soon he’ll realize that he’s damaging himself and wants to quit. Keep being a good role model and friend and continue to say no to his bad habits.
Sincerely,
A Friend Who Cares


Dear Don’t Know How to Help,
First I would like to give you a thumbs up for refusing to participate in bad choices and substance abuse. This is a tough thing to consider, because this is your best friend. I feel that if he was really your ‘best friend” he wouldn’t pressure you to do things that would hurt you.Your friend needs HELP. Try helping him without getting him in trouble with his parents. Your friend is starting to act violent you say. Is he acting violent towards you? You shouldn’t put up with this, because you sound like a good person. I think you should remain being friends, because that’s what he really needs right now – a friend. He probably feels alone, and that’s why he is using substances. Just ask an older but advice-giving person for medical and therapy help, like a counselor or favorite teacher. Stay strong and firm in your decision to not participate in these activities. If your best friend is doing these things and doesn’t respect your say in the situation then you’ll have to step back and let him face the consequences of his actions. Even though it’ll be hard to do, you have to face that it’s his body, and he’ll do whatever he wants.
Sincerely,
Your Friend

Missing My Cousin

Missing My Cousin

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I recently had a cousin who passed away. We were very close. She was like a sister to me. She has been gone for 4 months, and it still doesn’t feel real. Her birthday is coming up. My family is going to visit her grave-site, but I’m not sure if I want to go. I don’t think I would be able to handle it, but at the end of the day, she still is my family, and you’re supposed to be there regardless. So I just need help making the decision to go or not to go.

Sincerely,
Missing My Cousin


Dear Missing My Cousin,
I also had a cousin who passed away. It’s been a year since she died. I feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. If you are afraid of breaking down, don’t be. It’s okay to cry. Most of all, it’s important to be there for her birthday. She’s in a better place, and she probably just wants you to be happy. Go to her grave and be with her. Wish her peace and happiness in heaven.

Sincerely,
A Friend


Dear Missing My Cousin,
I also lost a cousin about a year ago. We lived right next door to each other. She was older than me, so I would go to her for advice. Even though it can be hard to find closure, I think that you should visit her grave. I have a feeling that it would make her feel happy. I’m sure she would have done the same for you.

Sincerely,
Youth Ambassadors


Dear Missing My Cousin,
I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. I’ve lost family members that I barely knew, but I know that if I lost someone that I am close with I would at least want closure. It’s completely up to you if you want to go, but I think it would do you some good. I’m sure your cousin would want you to be happy and to live your life. So take as much time as you need to grieve. Being happy doesn’t mean you need to forget about her. Just take it one day at a time.

Sincerely,
You’ve Got A Friend

Trust Issues

Trust Issues

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I’m having problems trusting people.  Like, when they tell you things they don’t really mean.  I’m always being lied to.  I don’t ask anyone anything and I stay to myself.  I don’t let anyone know if I need to talk to anyone.  If I am upset, I put my phone down and go to sleep. I don’t understand how I can trust anyone.  Can you help me?

Sincerely,

Trust Issues


Dear Trust Issues,

I know exactly how you feel.  In the past I’ve trusted the wrong people and got my heart broken, because they didn’t turn out to be the person I thought.  And now, when anyone new comes into my life, I hesitate to let them in, because I am too scared to trust people.  The people in this world are so unpredictable.  You never know when someone is going to wake up one day and decide to leave you.  My advice to you would be to take your time to get to know somebody.  If they seem worthy of your trust, then trust them.  If there are signs that this person is temporary, then don’t get your hopes up.  I’d say put your trust in God.  He’s the only one who won’t let you down.

Sincerely,

Your Empathetic Friend


Dear Trust Issues,

I feel the same way.  Sometimes I feel like I don’t have anybody. But, sometimes you have to pray on it and hope everything will be ok.  When you feel like you have somebody to talk to you don’t know if you can trust them or not but you have to have faith in people.  Just go with the flow in life and get on with your life.   Keep your head up.

Sincerely,

An Understanding Friend