Cheating Brothers

Cheating Brothers

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
All of my big brothers, except one, are unfaithful to their girlfriends. They have me lie to their girlfriends about it, because they trust me. I don’t want to do it, but they are my brothers, and I love them. I know how it feels for your boyfriend to lie to you, especially through his little sister. It hurts. I honestly don’t want to lie to these girls anymore. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Cheating Brothers


Dear Cheating Brothers,
I understand those are your brothers, and you love them, but they need to do their dirt alone. Putting you in the middle isn’t fair to you, nor the girls. Just tell your brothers how you feel, and if they really love their little sister, they’ll understand. Just speak up. You shouldn’t do anything you don’t want to do. And remember, closed mouths don’t get fed, so if you don’t say anything you’ll continue to be in the middle.
Sincerely,
I Have Brothers Too


Dear Cheating Brothers,
You have to be strong enough to tell your brothers that they’re wrong. Yes, “family comes first.” But think, if you had a boyfriend, you wouldn’t want his sisters lying to you. Treat others how you want to be treated. If you are just straightforward and honest, your brothers will respect your wishes and understand them as well.
Sincerely,
Wishing You Luck


Dear Cheating Brothers,
You should start blackmailing your brothers. If they decide to be unfaithful to their girlfriends, they have to tell them, or you will. Then ask your brothers how would they feel if a dude had you crying and feeling worthless – in love with a no good piece of work? They’d be ready to kill him right? So if they wouldn’t want their little sister to get hurt, they should treat their girlfriend better, because she is someone’s daughter, sister, aunt, best friend, maybe even mother. They can’t cheat on women and lie to them but expect prince charming to come for their sister. Karma doesn’t work that way, and you’re gonna be the one paying for it. Better yet, ask them how would it feel to get lied to and cheated on by someone they were in love with. What if they end up having daughters going through it? Loyalty is everything, true enough, but be a loyal enough little sister to call your brothers out when they are doing wrong and make them do right. Don’t allow that, and if they don’t like it, tell them leave you out of it. It’s their problem.
Sincerely,
A Friend

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Not Hungry

Not Hungry

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
My mama always thinks I am starving myself. I eat just like I used to. I eat small plates. I can go four days without eating and then eat a big plate. Every time I look up I am always getting asked, “have you been eating?” or “do you want to eat?” or “can I cook something for you?” When I smoke or drink I get hungry, but that’s the only time. I remember one day my auntie and cousin came over. They were all cooking dinner for everyone. It was time to eat. Everyone got up and made plates. I was sitting playing a game and my mama called me over and forced me to eat. I told her that I wasn’t hungry. She hit me. Later that night they got my favorite food. How can I handle this?

Sincerely,
Not Hungry


Dear Not Hungry,
I think you should eat three healthy meals a day, because you need it to play sports and for school. You cannot think on an empty stomach at school.
Sincerely,
A Friend Who Cares


Dear Not Hungry,
I know where you are coming from. I could go so long without eating, then one day when I’m hungry, I’ll eat. I remember one day my auntie asked, “Do I need to get you help, because you’re not eating?” Sometimes when my uncle is around he’ll force me to eat, and if I don’t, he’ll hit me. Yes, people said, “you need to eat” or “stop starving yourself” or maybe, “there’s an easier way to lose weight.” But one day I began to eat small portions, and everyone was surprised. That really made me realize that people only want what’s best for us. We should be wanting the same.
Sincerely,
Your Friend


Dear Not Hungry,
My first piece of advice is to stop smoking and drinking. I know it’ll be hard if you’ve done it for so long. But maybe, that’s the problem. Plus if you aren’t eating for four days and getting high and drunk during the time you are eating then that’s not healthy. It’ll be hard in the beginning, but there’s nothing good coming out of it. Your mom hit you, because you aren’t eating. Maybe that wasn’t the best thing to do, but she’s doing it because she wants you to eat. She wants you to be healthy. You should want the same for yourself. Instead of getting high and drunk, you could be at IHOP getting yourself some warm pancakes with a side of eggs. You only have one body. Take care of it. Try eating more. It’ll make everyone less worried. Plus, your body will thank you. Please take care of yourself. You are lucky to have people that care about you.
Sincerely,
You’ve Got This

Wanting to Help

Wanting to Help

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I know this guy who is upset, because he feels like no one is helping him prepare for adulthood. He is 17, and his mom refuses to let him get a job, driver’s license, or car. His mom borrows money from him to do her own thing while he goes without. His family breaks promises to him, and he’s depressed. How can I help him?

Sincerely,
Wanting to Help


Dear Wanting to Help,
I feel he should just sit down and talk to his parents one by one and let them know how he is feeling. His mom probably refuses to let him do certain things, because she’s afraid that when he leaves and goes off on his own, he might never come back. So since he’s not 18 yet, she’s trying to keep him as long as possible. Also, he could try to talk to a counselor.
Sincerely,
A Friend Who Thinks You Can Do This


Dear Wanting to Help,
I think that your friend should get help from other family members that can help him get a job and a driver’s license. Before he does that, I think that he should have a talk with his mom and tell her why he should be able to do things that lead to adulthood. He should tell her that not being able to do these things could possibly affect how he lives later on.
Sincerely,
Your Friend


Dear Wanting to Help,
What!? Um no, you need to talk to this guy and tell him to talk to his mother about it. That’s not right at all. If she doesn’t want to listen, tell her to mother up! You want a job? Get a job! You want a license? Get to studying the book. If you want to do things for yourself that are positive, DO IT! How the hell does his mom want to borrow money from him if she doesn’t even let him get a job? In this life you learn to not depend on others’ promises. Promise yourself things and work towards getting where you want. You’re the only one you can really depend on. When life turns its back on you, take advantage and grab that! In other words, when it’s down hill, find the positive things.
Sincerely,
A Helping Hand

Wanting to Come Out

Wanting to Come Out

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I am bisexual and have known for a long time. I recently came out to my mom and aunt. My mom says she will always love me for who I am. When I try to talk about my girlfriend/boyfriend, she says she doesn’t want to hear about it. I want to come out to my entire family now. How should I do this?

Sincerely,
Wanting to Come Out


Dear Wanting to Come Out,
I know how this feels. I’m bisexual also. I think that you should find someone you really trust or you know will have your back and ask them to help you tell them. I know sometimes I just want to leave, so I can be myself and go where no one knows me. But I’ve realized you can’t run forever, so find that person you trust and ask them to help. I also suggest prayer. Even though you’re bisexual, God still loves you, so talk to him.
Sincerely,
A Friend Who Believes in You


Dear Wanting to Come Out,
Okay, so being bisexual is not a bad thing. If you want to come out to your entire family, you should do it. If your mama loves you like she says she does, it shouldn’t matter what anybody else thinks. For real, if your family loves you, it shouldn’t matter what you like as long as you’re happy. That is what should matter.
P.S. I’m bisexual too.
Sincerely,
The Man with the Mohawk


Dear Wanting to Come Out,
I think, as long as your mom knows you’re bisexual, you don’t have to tell anyone else, unless you really want them to know. That’s your business, and it should stay like that.
Sincerely,
Your Friend

Foster Family Fued

Foster Family Fued

Dear Youth Ambassadors,

I live with this foster family. They have two kids and now me and my three siblings. They have two girls and spoil them a lot. My little sister is a hard kid to control, but at the same time my foster-sister is too. Every time my sister and foster sister argue, my foster parents take their own daughter’s side and don’t even listen to my sister’s side. Their other daughter gets to stay up later than my sister, gets more snacks, etc. I just don’t want my sister to feel bad and get treated unfairly. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Foster Family Feud


Dear Foster Family Feud,
Whoever is the oldest needs to step up and say these words of choice: “I’m tired of you always taking your daughter’s side. They are always arguing, and you need to let your daughter know that she needs to chill on this one right here. They are both wrong for arguing but it’s not always just my sister.”
Sincerely,
A Friend in Youth Ambassadors


Dear Foster Family Feud,
Well, if I were you with all that money you make, I would just go buy a whole lot of late night snacks. Then, whenever they do that you can just take your sister up to your room and let her pick out something sweet. But have her eat it in the room, so both of you will not get in trouble.
Sincerely,
A Fellow Youth Ambassador


Dear Foster Family Feud,
This breaks my heart to hear that sides are being taken at all. There should never be a time in my opinion when foster children get treated poorly, because they’ve already been through a lot. Being in a foster home already is tough, because no one knows what goes on in foster homes. When adopting a child you should want to give them the same amount of love you would or actually do give your own children. My advice would be to talk to your foster parents and let them know. Favorites aren’t funny or nice. It’s cruel.
Sincerely,
Your Friend

Not Enough Time

Not Enough Time

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
This year I wanted to try to graduate high school early, but because I am raising my one-year-old brother, I find it difficult to get my schoolwork done. If I’m raising my brother, how do I find the time to do my work? How can I get my family to understand this?

Sincerely,
Not Enough Time


Dear Not Enough Time,
I understand what you are going through, although not on a personal level, I get where you are coming from. Basically, you probably feel alone and that you have to do this. Well, that’s the thing. You don’t have to do it. You might think that if you don’t do it, no one will, but have you ever thought that the reason they don’t do it is because they see you as a support system? The more and more that you just automatically come to the rescue for them, the more they will think they don’t need to do it, because you will. You have to let them know that you can’t always be there, because you have other things to do. It’s okay to say “no” sometimes. It’s not being selfish. You are going to be gone soon and not going to be around that much, so it is good to get this problem addressed now. I also suggest that you make a system where you can watch him a set number of days, and they get the rest. The bottom line is you have to start putting your foot down for you now.
Sincerely,
Your Friend


Dear Not Enough Time,
I understand that you have to try to raise your brother, but I think you can still find time to finish school early. One way to find time to do work is while your brother is asleep. Another way is by just giving the one-year-old things to do to be productive while you are productive on your homework. To get your family to understand your circumstance though, you should talk to them straight up about it. Tell them how you feel. You could have someone else in your family watch your brother at least two hours some days, so you can get your work done. I hope this helps, and you use the advice. Good luck.
Sincerely,
Youth Ambassadors

Sugar Tooth

Sugar Tooth

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I have a sweet tooth. Extremely sweet tooth. Sugars are not my friend. I’m getting bigger and bigger. I try to control my sweets, but can’t seem to handle it. I mean I do try and eat healthy foods, but working at a fast food place doesn’t help that much. It’s summer, and I’m not happy with my body. I look fine. You can’t tell I’m fat, but put me in a skin tight dress and these love handles are bad. I just wish I knew how to avoid sweets. I want to be happy with my body again.

Sincerely,
Sugar Tooth


Dear Sugar Tooth,
I wanna start off by saying you are very, very beautiful and never let anyone tell you different. You don’t have to be like everyone else. I’m a real skinny girl, and I don’t really like it, because I can barely fit in some outfits. People make fun of me, but I don’t let them get me down. I know sometimes words hurt, but you shouldn’t care about them calling you fat, because you’re not. You’re healthy. It’s also great that you’re trying to eat healthy! Keep up the great work. I’m supporting you Sugar Tooth! You can do this!!
Sincerely,
A Youth Ambassador


Dear Sugar Tooth,
If you think it’s hard to keep up with your weight, then just keep your self-confidence up and don’t worry about other people’s decisions, because everyone is beautiful in their own way. Nobody else’s thoughts should make you feel down about yourself. If you think working at a fast food place won’t help then find another job. That’s just my advice. You do not have to take it if you don’t want to.
Best,
Your Friend