Tired of Peer Pressure

Tired of Peer Pressure

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
What do you do when someone puts pressure on you about losing your virginity? I see this happening to a lot of girls my age, so I was wondering how to deal with something like this. Some girls want to, but they are too scared to or aren’t ready. Their friends push them to do it, tell them, “It doesn’t hurt, “You can’t get pregnant,” and “You can’t get any type of disease from it.” Why are they putting all these lies in her head? In my opinion they should let her choose when she wants to have sex or not, because it’s her body, and they can’t control her.

Signed,
Tired of Peer Pressure


Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,
It is extremely important that you don’t give into peer pressure. These girls who are telling others about these lies most likely weren’t informed about the facts on the situation. And the truth is, losing your virginity at such a young age does come with some serious consequences. There is a very high chance that they will get pregnant or catch an STD, especially since they don’t seem to know the importance of protection. I think that adults such as teachers and parents should take time to inform teens and young adults about safe sex.
Sincerely,
A Fellow Youth Ambassador


Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,
I honestly think they want her to be “a part” of them. Sort of like “monkey see, monkey do.” The difference is this “monkey’s” getting pressured. This girl shouldn’t have to if she doesn’t want to. However, she should know that whatever she does is her doing. To prevent from peer pressure getting to your head, you need to think of the consequences. She could very well get pregnant. She could also contract a STD. This is something SHE and HER MIND decide to do, not others. Especially something like this. Be safe kids.
Sincerely,
Just Keeping It Real


Dear Tired of Peer Pressure,
I totally agree, it should be her choice if she wants to lose her virginity or not. If you are having second thoughts on a situation that means something isn’t right. Losing your virginity is a big deal, because you should cherish your body. That’s why you can’t just lose it to anybody. Whenever you want to lose it you would know, because you won’t feel pressured, or feel like you have to do this in order for someone to stay with you. And you will be the odd one out of your friends which is a good thing, because you are awesome.
Sincerely,
Your Friend

Seeking Help

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I’m dealing with a situation in my life where I’m just now getting over being sexually abused. This happened to me when I was 10 years old. I thought I would never get over it, but now I go to therapy, and it is really helping me. I’ve been going to my therapist for about three months. I must say, I really needed it after all these years. Even though it helps, I’m still not over it, and I think about it everyday. What more is there to do? Where do I seek more help? Can you please give me advice on what to do?

Sincerely,
Seeking Help


Dear Seeking Help,
I don’t know you, but I’m so proud of you for going to therapy. To answer your question – I’m going to be as honest as I possibly can, because I’m still a teenager myself. What more is there to do? Well I would say keep living your life to the fullest. Make mistakes, learn from them, fill your brain with knowledge and most importantly forgive. Forgive the person who hurt you, not for them but for you. So you can be able to move on and love life.
Hope this helps, good luck!

Sincerely,
Your Classmate

I Have Half Brothers

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So before my dad met my mom he had another family. I’m not sure what happened, but what I know is that he left them. Recently my dad has been trying to get in touch with his sons. I honestly could care less, but my dad keeps pestering me, telling me I have half-brothers, and I should get to know them. I don’t know why it bothers me so much, but I don’t want to get to know them. I don’t want anything to do with them. It really annoys me, and I just want to tell him to shut up about it. But how do I tell him that without sounding like a jealous, whiny brat?

P.S. Now he’s acting all cheery, because he’s a grandfather now and talks about how great his sons are.

Sincerely,
I Have Half Brothers


Dear I Have Half Brothers,
I understand why you are upset about your dad having other children. However, I don’t think you should hold that against him. This happened way before you. It sounds to me like your dad is doing the right thing and taking care of his responsibilities. Just think, you would want him to do the same for you. It’s okay if you don’t want to meet your brothers, but maybe you should give them a try. They could become very important people in your life.

Sincerely,
A Friend Who Believes in You


Dear I Have Half Brothers,
Your father made a mistake, and he’s just trying to fix it. Although you don’t want to have anything to do with your half brothers you should at least give them a chance. It’s not their fault. Also, think about if the shoe was on the other foot, your dad left you and your mom to go live with another woman. You wouldn’t want to have anything to do with him at first, but you eventually would want to have your father in your life. You may even have a lot of stuff in common with your half brothers. Hope this helps.

Sincerely,
A Youth Ambassador

Caring Friend

Caring Friend

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I have a friend who is constantly being made fun of by others, because he looks different. He can get very upset when people call him names. If he really wanted to, he could hurt someone. He told me what he would do to anyone who keeps making fun of him. What should I do to prevent him from doing these bad things?

Sincerely,
Caring Friend


Dear Caring Friend,
You should let him know that many people were and are different. Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper for “lacking imagination” and “having no original ideas.” Guess what? He is one of the most famous people today because of his imagination. So being different isn’t always a bad thing. Most of the time it is a good thing. People talk about how chubby I am and how I don’t have any butt. It’s okay, because I love me just the way I am. Then other people talk about the way I dress. I match, and also wear things that I think ring out my personality. I also wear a lot of pink every day. So looking different should not matter to him. People are going to talk about you no matter what you do. And you have to learn to deal with it. Talking could be a good way of getting it all out. Sometimes even crying works.
Sincerely,
Your Friend


Dear Caring Friend,
He needs to learn to be his own man. He needs to understand people are going to talk about him his whole life. He should not let what people think bother him, because nine times out of ten the people talking about him don’t even have themselves together. Everybody can’t be perfect.
Sincerely,
A Youth Ambassador

Objection

Objection

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
My mom is getting married, and I don’t want her to. It’s because I don’t think he is right for her. He can’t do anything for her or her kids. I don’t think he knows what comes with the pack and all the things that come with my mom. What should I do?

Sincerely,
Objection


Dear Objection,
Seems like you really have your mom’s best interest at heart which is a good thing. But your mom is still old enough to make her own decision. What I think you should do is have a conversation one on one with the adults and then together. The one on one is for you to get a little more in depth with the issues you may have. Together is so all of you can talk and express your emotions, making a stronger bond. Also, you have to understand that your mom is still a woman not just a mom. What this means is that she’ll still have desires to be with a man, because she doesn’t want to be lonely. Even though she has her children, it’s just a different level of love when it comes to having a spouse. Hope this works!

Sincerely,
A Fellow Youth Ambassador

Addicted

Addicted

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
I have a problem. I have a problem with drugs. I used to think that drugs were bad, but now it feels like I can’t go without them. I started with friends, like always. They offered, and I thought it would be fine, but it’s not. I try to act good around my parents, but every time I ask to go out it is to see those friends. I have gotten better, but at times the urge is too strong, and I find those who I call “friend” that got me into this mess.

Sincerely,
Addicted


Dear Addicted,
Everybody has an issue with something they’re addicted to, whether it is food, soda, or drugs. Many people are addicted to different things, so don’t feel alone. Make excuses to not hang out with those friends, and you won’t end up doing that stuff. Say you’re grounded or busy. Once in awhile is better than every day, but then eventually stop. Say your parents are drug testing you.

Sincerely,
A Friend


Dear Addicted,
Everyone is hooked on something. Everyone has an addiction to something. Find something to keep you occupied: your family, games, sports, and start telling those friends you’re grounded or busy and stay away from them until you can tell them “No” to drugs. It’s hard. But I know you can do it.

Sincerely,
The Cutie in the Pink Hoodie

Concerned But Disagree

Concerned But Disagree

Dear Youth Ambassadors,
My brother recently told me a big secret. He wants to be a girl or something. We are not normally super close and always on the same wavelength you know. The issue is I don’t agree with his decision. He is really stressed out and doesn’t have much support. I want to be there for him, but at the same time, I want to knock some sense into him. How should I go about dealing with him?

Sincerely,
Concerned But Disagree


Dear Concerned but Disagree,
It sounds like what your brother needs right now is your support. The good thing is you don’t need to agree with anyone’s decision to be able to support him. I think that you should try to put your own views aside and be there for your brother. “Knocking some sense into him”, will probably do more harm than good, because enough people will be trying to do that already. He knows himself better than anyone, and he needs you as his family member to be his supporter.

Sincerely,
A Friend


Dear Concerned but Disagree,
Being gay is very hard in our society and is a very scary thing. Your brother really loves you, because he feels like he can trust you and thinks you will accept him for who he really is. Your brother has always had a feeling that he liked men. He probably even tried to like girls more to see if he was really into boys. I understand that you don’t agree with it, but still give your brother the respect that he deserves. He is still your brother. He needs support in this, because half of the world already doesn’t accept him for not being them. They figure everyone should just be the same, but it’s not like that anymore. We’re in the 21st century. Things change all the time. You have the choice to adapt with the change or be naive to it.

( P.S. Good Luck and congrats to your brother! )

Sincerely,
Your Friend